St Augustine Lifestyle Photographer | Jacksonville Photographer: Heaven Sent

August 05, 2015  •  3 Comments

Time heals all wounds they say. But guess what ? It just is not true, Loosing a child is like losing a  piece of your heart, and you never get  it back. A part of you is always missing and you actually never completely move on from it. This is a very special blog post today. One I have been praying about the last year. The title "Heaven Sent" is from my friend's blog name and seemed the fitting title. 

On this day last year, August 6, 2014, I was with my friend Kelly as her daughter Paisley Jane whose soul was  born into heaven. Her little 8 inch body weighed just 4.8 oz at 18 weeks. She joined Curtis, Aubrey,and Maverik. And as heartbreaking as this already is after Paisley two more children, Carly and Brody were born into heaven. I was also with them when Brody was born (just 6 weeks ago) If you ask them how many children do they have, they will tell you 9, 6 are in heaven and 3 are here . 

I first met Kelly at a local breastfeeding event and took photos of another of their children as she carried him on her back in one of her beautiful wraps. Knowing the pain I felt with my losses, I wanted to be there for them as a bereavement doula and photographer.I knew it would not be easy, but I prayed silently in my heart to be able to console them. A year later (with Kelly's permission) I am sharing photos from Paisley and Brody's (whom passed just 6 weeks ago) birth. 

I want those that have suffered losses no matter what age to know your baby IS your baby YOUR grief IS YOUR grief. 

 Every life is precious from conception to death. In our society most do not talk about pregnancy loss (especially early miscarriage ) 

Kelly and Michael Lynn both have blogs about their losses I encourage you to read them and any fathers , read Michael's blog as well.This is Kelly's blog http://angelsremembered.blogspot.com/?m=0 and Michael's is https://michaellynn2002.wordpress.com/

 

 A Grieving Parent’s Prayer 
© Bernadette Zambri 
(Written June 13, 1993)

I feel unable to pray - I need Your insight in new ways to pray.

I feel abandoned - I need Your warmth.

I feel isolated from You - I need courage to take steps closer to You.

I feel hurt – I need Your healing..

I feel so sad – I need Your closeness and humour.

I feel anger, resentment and bitterness – I need Your Peace.

I feel afraid – I need Your strength.

I feel anxious – I need Your patience.

I feel that I can never trust You again – I need to feel Your Love.

 

 

These are true love and raw emotion and may be difficult to see but something everyone needs to see.

After these photos there will also be a slide show of Both Paisley and Brody. 

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Lisa Olschewske Photography

 

Here is a slide show of Both Paisley and Brody :

 


 


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What is bandwidth?(non-registered)
I’m really happy to say it was an interesting post to read. I learned new information from your article, you are doing a great job. Continue
Lisa Ellis Photography
Missy I am so sorry for loss also. Yes Brody was about 14 weeks :(
Missy(non-registered)
God bless these sweet angel babies, and their brave parents. Thank you for sharing this with us. I think so many of us have suffered a loss but just don't feel comfortable bringing it up. My Angel Emily would be 17 now...and I still talk to her from my heart. I still miss her and wonder what she would be like. You're right. You move on, but life is a new normal. A piece of me is gone forever. <3 How old was Brody? I may have missed that part. My guess is maybe around 14 weeks? That's how old Emily was...it comforts me to see Brody so I can imagine her realness...they didn't let me see her. Sending so much love and light your way...
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